Thursday, May 30, 2013

Finding Gratitude in Everything: Visit to the States





It’s important to never rule any of your desires out simply because you cannot necessarily see how they will manifest themselves.

While vacationing in Lisbon, Portugal, Douglas and I received news that his mother was not expected to live much longer. We immediately cut our trip short and planned to go to South Carolina to be by her side. We flew back to Algiers and remained there for three days while waiting for our plane tickets to be purchased. We packed our suitcases preparing to likely attend his mother’s funeral.

After being in South Carolina for only a few days, we received news that my dad was critically ill in New York. The doctors couldn’t tell whether he would live to see the following day. The unthinkable was happening. While on emergency leave for one parent, we had to extend the leave due to an emergency situation for another parent. I could feel my stress levels rising as we tried to figure out our next steps. We left for New York a few days later to be by my father’s side.

We spent a total of three weeks in the US. Those were three weeks filled with worry, love, anxiety, excitement, stress, comfort, sadness, and joy. We battled so many emotions, both bad and good. Douglas’ mother made a huge turn around. She is doing much better now compared to her condition when we arrived. My dad is also doing better. Douglas and I are blessed that both our parents are still here, fighting to live each day. Now, regardless of what their future holds, we take solace in knowing that we got to be by their sides. This situation is a reminder to make your memories great because you never know when your last one will be.

Douglas and I have very strong faith. Therefore, I cannot help but mention how blessed we are or how wonderful our God is throughout many of my blog entries. We were itching to get away for a bit. We needed a break from the monotonous routine we had succumbed to in Algiers. As much as we would have liked to visit our family in the US on our own accord, it was not ideal for us to do. Round-trip tickets to the States from Algiers average approximately $1700 per person, and that is to only one destination. If we wanted to visit all of our immediate family in two additional states we would have had to pay for that airfare as well. Also, we would not have been allowed to vacation in the US for three weeks.

How beautiful is God’s design that although both our parents were critically ill simultaneously, He changed both their conditions for the better, simultaneously? How beautiful is God’s design that He used the Marine Corps to take us from Algeria to the United States without any airfare expense to our bank account? How beautiful is God’s design that He placed a kind hearted, family-oriented Commanding Officer in charge of our Region to grant us permission to take leave, extend leave, and cancel his own Command Visit that was scheduled during this time?  How beautiful is God’s design that He took us to both South Carolina and New York, and made it so that we could see several family members, including all immediate relatives on the East Coast? How beautiful is God’s design that He put people in our lives that opened their homes for us to temporarily reside and shared their possessions for us to use as our own? How beautiful is God’s design that he touched the hearts of so many of our close friends to give them the desire and means to visit with us on such short notice?

To some these actions may be pure happenstance, for others it may be accredited to good luck, but for Douglas and me, we know this manifestation was nothing but God. We never know what life will bring us. So, rather than dismissing what we think will never happen, maybe we should embrace the endless possibilities. The sun always shines after a storm. Below are pictures of our possibilities and beautiful sunshine.

Walking our niece and nephew, Jasmine and Jason, to school



In the basement playing basketball & many other games with the kids

Went to both their softball games




Watched Jasmine play the flute in the school band concert

Gave her bedroom a pretty nice makeover

My girls, Trina and Suzanne

Friends since high school

Childhood best friend from 4 years old

1st time meeting Suzanne's beautiful daughter, my adorable niece...Taylor



Hanging out with mom
At the salon with my hair freshly done

My tall big brother

Saturday morning baseball game for Jason, with Jerry, Patrice, and Mom



The family surprised Douglas with a birthday cake
Douglas was extra surprised when he realized those were trick candles

Our godchildren. Poor Jayden got caught in Camden's hug!

Camden beat me at arm wrestling

Fun times

Godson and godmommy love

It was a long game....but well worth it!

brothers and sister together again

This man ALWAYS makes us laugh...our good friend Andre'

It had been five years since they'd seen each other
Being silly! Friend and brother for 15 years - Carlton

Dinner with the old crew....love these guys!

We feel extremely blessed to be a part of God's magnificent design. 



Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Layover in Madrid





Once we received the news that Douglas’ mother was critically ill in the United States, we searched for the earliest and cheapest flights leaving Lisbon. Direct flights are usually available. However, this was a last minute search, so non-stop flights were not an option. As well, most flights were anywhere between $740 to $1200 per person for a one way ticket. There was no way we could spend that much to get back to Algiers. Luckily, Douglas found a flight on Iberia Airlines from Lisbon to Algiers with a layover in Madrid for only $198 per person. That seemed ideal until we noticed it was a 22 hour layover in Madrid. No sane person wants to spend that amount of time in an airport. It didn't take us long to decide on getting a hotel and maximizing our time in Madrid as best we could.

The flight was scheduled to depart Lisbon around 4:00 p.m. and arrive in Madrid at 6:00 p.m. We booked a room at Clement Barajas Hotel near the airport. On the hotel website it listed a Metro Station nearby. That was all we needed - a way into the city. As we checked into the hotel I asked the representative for a map and a few suggestions for dining out that night. The representative gave us some great tips and informed us that the Metro shuts down at 1:00 am. We would have to pay a costly fare to take a cab back to the hotel if we weren't on the train by then. (In my best Sweet Brown voice) Ain't nobody got time for that! Douglas and I planned to drop our bags off in the room and go right out to explore as much of Madrid as we could before curfew.

While checking in downstairs, a few things caught my eye. I noticed the high chair behind the woman helping us. The seat cushion was black with cracks that exposed the foam inside. I also noticed the wall behind the check-in desk was peeling and had chipped paint. I looked behind me and saw two small elevators. I looked further and saw a dining room that resembled a rest stop restaurant one would find driving along a deserted highway. Although we were in a rush to find a hotel last minute, I did my best to scope out the better hotels in the area. Clement Barajas had four stars and pretty good reviews. I have to admit, if we were vacationing in Madrid this hotel wouldn’t had even been an option. But we needed something close to the airport. Based on my immediate surroundings, I was not excited to see what the rooms looked like.




After check-in with the helpful representative we waited for the elevator to arrive. The door opened and I thought Douglas and I were going to have to take turns going up. It was so tiny! Once we got inside and the door was about to close, another couple came running towards the elevator. Part of me wanted to pound the close button on that elevator, but the good heart inside of me just didn’t let me do it. I held the door open for them wondering where they would squeeze themselves to fit. They made it work. I also hate to be judgmental, but I cannot be the only person that gets a feel for the type of hotel you are staying in from the guests you see inside. From the looks of these guests they screamed Motel 6. Again, I cannot be the only one who thinks this way. I’m probably just the only one expressing those thoughts in writing!

We got to our floor and walked towards our room. I could immediately smell disaster, literally and figuratively. There was an odor in the hallway that smelled like old carpet mixed with cigarette smoke. We unlocked our room door and I could feel the knot in my throat drop all the way to my feet. Again, I messed up because I did not take pictures. The only thing on my mind was dropping off our bags and leaving that room as quickly as possible. How I wish I had taken pictures to give you a visual! There were so many things wrong; where do I begin? First, there were two twin sized beds that looked more like premature twin size beds. They looked like something you would see in prison, except they weren’t bunk beds. Second, the TV was, as Douglas joked, the first television ever made. Third, the floors were more rickety than a deserted mansion from a horror film. Fourth, the windows had bars on them. Fifth, the toilet in the bathroom was basically on top of the sink, and the sink was practically in the bathtub. Sixth, the bathtub had half a door that stopped just inches away from the water knobs. The water from the shower head just leaked to the floor since there was no door or curtain there to block it. I could go on but I think you get the idea of just how sad this hotel was. And after leaving the luxurious Tiara Park in Lisbon, we felt like the Jeffersons just met Sanford and Son...on so many levels!

Douglas and I left that room so fast, you would have thought there was a fire. We walked to the Metro, which was only five minutes away, and took it to the city. We made two train transfers and arrived at Plaza de Espana about an hour later. All the shopping, restaurants, and clubs are located in this area. It reminded me of Times Square at night. The streets were packed with people. I had to clutch my purse to ensure it didn’t get snatched. I’m a New Yorker at heart, but there is no place in my heart that enjoys the brush of one person after another against my arm. Holding hands was basically impossible.






It was almost 10 pm and we were starving. The only dish we tasted for was some authentic Spanish paella. I couldn’t imagine eating anything else while in Spain for less than 24 hours. We went to a restaurant recommend by the hotel representative. It was called La Paella de la Reina (Paella of the Queen). The name said it all. It didn’t take Douglas and I long to review the menu and place our order. One paella to share and one Sangria for Douglas - perfect!





After eating we bought some frozen yogurt and then caught the train by midnight. We returned to the hotel just before 1:00 am. Usually after a flight and a tour of the city for a bit, one would be itching to get into bed. However, that bed was not calling my name. Tiara Park’s bed in Lisbon was calling my name. Heck, my bed in Algiers was calling my name louder than Clement Barajas was. Douglas and I usually cuddle together before going to sleep. Well, cuddling wasn’t taking place that night. I invited Douglas over to my side of the bed and he could barely fit. We tried removing the tucked sheets beneath both sides of our mattress and lying together but then the beds started to slip apart. Before one or both of us ended up on the floor we kissed each other goodnight and went to our separate sides. I felt like we were on a marriage retreat gone bad.

We checked out of the hotel early the next morning. The hotel was kind enough to hold our luggage so we could explore Madrid during the day before catching the shuttle to the airport. The hotel representative recommended we visit one of Madrid’s premiere attractions, Buen Retiro Park. Douglas and I love walking around, especially in such a gorgeous park that seemed so perfect for us. We took the train back into the city, just a few stops from Plaza de Espana. Before going to the park we at lunch at a wonderful Turkish restaurant. There is a Turkish restaurant called Bosphore in Algiers, but that place didn’t hold a candle to the one in Madrid. It was the best Turkish food we had ever eaten. 

Turkish meal


Buen Retiro Park was very large. The only other park I'd visited similar in size is Central Park. But this park had much more open space and a fresher look. It housed beautiful sculptures and monuments. There were several activities for kids and adults. It contained a peaceful lake and plenty of grass to lay a blanket down. The park was magnificent. I could have stayed for the entire day.















We weren’t seeking a trip to Madrid, but that layover allowed us to have a glimpse of what the beautiful city had to offer. Hopefully our journey brings us back there for a real vacation...at a much nicer hotel.